Child Support-Dead Beat Dads

A brand new resource for mothers in Missouri who are interested more (free) resources for dealing with dead beats and the Missouri Child Support Enforcement Division.

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in March 2003 my ex and I split up and I filed for state assistance while I looked for a job, in return the state filed a support order against my ex.  He was ordered to pay 176.00 a month support, which I never recieved.  I had found full-time work so the state stopped all cash benifits and lowered my foodstamps. Because I wasn't recieving any child support I had to get a second job, and of course with a second job came a second daycare provider.  I went to being a full-time mom  to working an average of 60 hr a week, I only got to spend 2 waking hrs with my children a day. and all this time I was forcing my ex to take them for his visitations,even though he wasn't paying a dime, it helped with day care cost, I even offered a mid-week visit.  Some non-custodial parents would love to have an ex so cooperative.

 In November of 2003 my oldest son was found to be sexually abused by my boyfriend at the time.  The day after the abuse was noticed I found out I was pregnant, and that night DFS took custody of my 2 oldest children.  They placed my daughter in the home of her father and my son went into the foster care system.  And after A few days he too went to live with their father.  Even though the courts knew I had nothing to do with the abuse, had no knowledge of it, and I removed the perpitrator from my life, the would only grant me supervised visitation,  which my ex never complied with.  My children and I went through a year and a half of fighting to see eachother.  Needless to say with all the stress in my life at the time my pregnancy didn't go very well. By month   2 I had to quit my part time job.  And by my 5th month my hours had to be cut to 25 a week.  And by the begining of the 7th I was on work release.  During this time I recieved my child support order, 424.00 a month plus medical and I owed 1,600 in back support. I wasn't even working.  Don't get me wrong I believe in paying support but 2 and a half times as much as his order, how was that fair.  Well I contested it and got it lowered to 386.00,  which was still 2 times as much as his order, and the back support remained.  I had my baby a month early, and only took a 4 week maternity leave.  As soon as I recieved my first pay check they were already garnishing my wages 50 %, which was before taxes.  So I was trying to support me and my newborn on less than 400.00 a month.  Which is impossible.  So once again I found myself at the welfare office, But there wasn't any help for me there.  See when you apply for state assistance and you are working they count you gross income, not you bring home income, so to them I was making more than enough to support my small family.  Well as hard as I tried to get help from them, I soon found myself homeless, with a 2 month old baby.(nice system huh)  So once again I got a second job, second caretaker, and second garnishment. Yes they garnished the wages of my second job by 50%.  My ex was recieving over 700.00 childsupport from me.  I stayed with friends until I saved enough money to rent a run down studio apartment.  Then as my luck would have it I was fired from my full time job.  But that actually worked out for the best, since I was fired I could recieve unemployment (which they garnished) but I could stay home with my baby more and not have to pay a babysitter.  

Okay, the follwing summer I finally won full custody of my son from the state, child support was ordered, for both children, 508.00 a month,  Boy was I happy to hear that.  Yeah if he paid it.  It has been over a year and I haven't recieved one dime from him, Do they prosecute, NO.  Do they garnish his wages, if he didn't work under the table they might.  As for my youngest child his father was ordered to pay child support, which he doesn't pay either.  I was totally screwed by the system and they just let these dead beat dads run ammuck and they don't even lift a finger to help our children.  I want a good satisfing life for my children, but I have to turn them down on little things that shouldn't be a problem, like the luxury of new clothes and shoes, we have to buy second hand. Weekly days out are out of the question because we can't afford the little extras.  when I was paying all that money out in child support you would think that my children would have the best of the best,  When thay would actually come for visits they never had new clothes or toys or shoes.  Instead my ex had extra money to buy drugs and cars with.  I love the way they would rip children away from a loving, hard working sober mother, and just hand them to a know drug trafficer and multiple offender.  And Not think twice about it. 

Just to let you know Clay county in missouri is not that motivated.  I can not tell you how many times we have been in and out of court with contempt charges, child endangerment, etc. due to my ex not paying child support and other actions. 

This time he has moved and bought a house in Wyandotte County Kansas.  He is building houses over there but Missouri does not have access to the state of Kansas information so clay county has asked wyandotte county to help with enforcement.  Which I have been told that it could take 6 to 12 months to get it in their system.  In the meantime, clay county has placed a note on my case stating that they will not prosecute until the non custodial parent is 5000.00 in arrears.  And just today the case worker told me to call back in 6 months if I haven't received a payment by then.  He's already 4 months behind and they want me to wait another 6 plus he had an arrearage that he was carrying too.  I don't understand why they would rather let him go than make him provide the financial assistance that he owes to my daughter.  He is married and has two other children in the home and another child that is younger than the first 3 outside of the home.  And yet clay county has no way to help you out in the time that you wait.  I over qualify to get any kind of help.  I thought Clay County was better than that. 

Hi I'm new to the board , I'm Tina I live in Fl. & single mom to two daughters one of which is physically handicap .

My ex husband lives & works in Springfield , MO. and is well over $70,000.00 behind in child support .

I myself as you ladies stated are having diffuclt time getting MO C.S.E. to help assit in collecting the child support even though the case is in Fl. , Missouri is supposed to be helping.

My ex continues to move & switch jobs which is easy for him to do since he is a truck driver and most of the time is in a semi over the road driving .  His C.D.L. has been suspended but he is still driving & still collecting money

  C.S.E. here doesn't seem to do anything to help , every time he is found I myself had to do the leg work , I get new job addresses , numbers , new resident addresses for him but they seem to do nothing until he has enough time to run again .

I call C.S.E. approx. 3-4 times per week in hopes if I keep bugging them they will move my case along , I email  the governor of Fl. & the president , even write letters to C.S.E. office , faxed letters to them  .. Maybe they will get sick of me and do their jobs .

I can't afford another lawyer to collect the child support.

Any ideas of how to move the case along would be greatly appreciated .

To bad we all can't afford to rent billboards and post their mug shot of these deadbeat parents for all to see , They should be ashamed of themselves .  Or even have a t.v. show on weekly that expose deadbeat parents kinda like AMERICAS MOST WANTED DEADBEAT ?  

Even though I do not reside in Missouri, my child support is handeled through the state of Missouri because I resided there when I got divorced.

My son is 19 and getting ready to attend college. This is a dream come true for him as he is disabled.

His father was to pay child support while he attended college for the next two years. He graduated High School 2006.

We turned in all the paperwork to the caseworker as directed proving he was attending college.

I called ( kept notes on day and times and contents of conversations) to confirm they recieved the paperwork and I called back on two more occasions asking what was going on the caseworker told me that the case was reactivated and so on. I called again and talked to a supervisor who told me caseworker instead did not document the calls or reactivate the case. She lied all the way down the line. She never did anything now the case is closed and they will not reopen it. Now my son can not go to college as I can not carry the expense myself.

This really makes me angry because why should an employee that is paid by all of our wages allowed not to do her job and than is protected by the office that is supposed to be protecting our children.

I am attemting to find a law firm to file suit against her,the office,the county and the state.

I see from this site that several other people are having problems as well, if we band together we may be able to force the state to rectify all the less than ethical practices.

If interested let me know lets see if we can make a difference.